Feeling ungrateful to your mother?
Are you too irritated to her nonstop talking and asking about you?
You feel like just shutting your door and stop her from entering your room?
Wallah, you’re such a shame.
How can you do and be like that to your own mother?
I’m not writing this because it’s mother’s day or whatever they call it, I am writing this because I miss my mother, and I want this to be a reminder to all of you, to recognize the worth and value of your mother, because once you lose her, nothing will be the same again.
While most of you can still see your mother’s smile, I cannot anymore.
While most of you can still put your head on your mom’s shoulder, I cannot anymore.
While most of you can still call out to your mother when you feel pain in your body, I cannot anymore.
While most of you can still go and have that heart to heart talk with your mother, I cannot anymore.
It’s been more than a year since she returned to Allaah Azza Wa Jall, but the pain remains and it is like she just left a moment ago.
Like a moment ago, you are holding her warm hands then after few minutes that warmness turned to coldness.
No one can truly describe the pain of losing a mother, even I who lost her own, I still cannot describe and put into words the pain I go through everyday of my life.
My dear brother and sister in Islam, in our deen we are taught on how high of a status a mother has, how she must be respected and how she should be taken care of, but sometimes you don’t need any other reason why these things should be done for her, sometimes it’s just because she deserves it, she is worth every minute of your life.
You, who is reading this, you might still have your mother with you, so I want you to do something, after you read this, go look at her, look at her face, run your fingers on her face, look at her beautiful eyes, then kiss her on his forehead and say you’re sorry, and I tell you in second, you will see your mother in tears, not because you have committed something, but because she will feel understood, cared, loved and all these feelings she needs to feel from you.
Why did I say sorry? because apologizing is harder than loving, we can say i love you to almost everyone we feel like to, but i’m sorry, we can only truly say that to people who means a lot to us, to people who we think deserves it most, and your mother is most worthy of your apology.
Apologizing doesn’t mean you are wrong or you have done something wrong, apologizing means that you are afraid to lose this person, to hurt this person, to not able to live up to what this person expects from you. With I’m sorry, there is the light of unconditional love and understanding.
Your mother deserves that, because you know for a fact that in a day when she calls you, you return her call with the “uff”.
I want you to realize how much struggle and pain your mother underwent when she was carrying you and when she finally delivered you to this dunya. Not even a single labor pain of hers can be repaid by your lifetime service to her.
She is your mother, no one else can be you mother, only her. Let no one go beyond her status in your heart, because no one will love you like the way your mother would ever do.
I have lost my mother but every moment I spent with her were the best moments of my life.
So you, spend your days with your mother, make her smile, let her be pleased with you because she is one of your doors to Jannah.
Do not be too careless that you will just realize all of these on the day you see her being buried in her grave and I tell you when you see your mother shrouded in white cloth and being buried in her grave, that is the most painful thing, your heart will be in so much pain that you’ll just pass out.
In that moment, you could finally say that she has truly left, that later on she will be alone and be questioned and no one can help her not even you, only her and her deeds. Wallahi, we pray our mothers be granted Jannah. Amin.
So yes, my mother has left me already but Alhamdulillaah she left me at the doorstep of Allaah Azza Wa Jall. Alhamdulillaah Alhamdulillaah Alhamdulillaah.
And we pray that with the Mercy of Allaah Azza Wa Jall He grants all our mothers the highest ranks of Jannah and that He may reunite us with our beloved mothers in His Jannah.